CHILD ABUSE CAST A SHADOW THE LENGTH OF A LIFETIME: child abuse cast a shadow the length of a lifetime...

CHILD ABUSE CAST A SHADOW THE LENGTH OF A LIFETIME: child abuse cast a shadow the length of a lifetime...: Walking down a lonely road with no one by your side Every children has a right to be loved and live within a happy home with a hap...

CHILD ABUSE CAST A SHADOW THE LENGTH OF A LIFETIME Walking down a lonely road with no one by your side Every children has a right to be loved and live within a happy home with a hap...

child abuse cast a shadow the length of a lifetime

Walking down a lonely road with no one by your side

Every children has a right to be loved and live within a happy home with a happy family.......What exactly do we mean with when we say a happy family?Care to find out?

  5 Characteristics of Strong, Healthy and Happy Families

 

I’m sure you’ve heard the adage, “The family that plays and/or prays together, stays   together.” 

What makes families strong and healthy?  How can I encourage my children to be close and get along with each other?  How can I foster a good relationship with my children?  These questions have been on the minds of parents for years. 

There are - at least - 5 characteristics of strong, healthy and happy families.  These characteristics also apply to strong and healthy marriages and couples without children for whatever reason.

#1.SHARED FUN
         Life is busy, but a healthy family makes time to share meals, games, a trip or other activities. This provides time to talk, bond, encourage each other and form a family identity. Children feel secure in a family that makes time together a priority.

#2. COMMUNICATION       
           Families that can really share their feelings can work out conflict more easily and more quickly. The members will know more about each other and what each person needs.

#3.RESPECT          
            Children should respect their parents, but in a happy family, everyone should feel he is important and contributing. The family should place a high value on respecting others.

#4. BOUNDARIES 

           Every game has rules. All through life, we know what we're allowed to do and what is wrong. In a family, children need clear boundaries about household rules. This actually makes it easier on children to stay within their boundaries. Even adults in families have boundaries by acknowledging that there are ways to treat other people that are acceptable.

#5. IDENTITY

Having a family identity helps children and adults feel they belong in a group defined by special characteristics. There are hunting families, sports families and families that love literature and reading. Your family can have several shared passions that make your family special.

Another common adage is that, “Blood is thicker than water.”  It’s true, but with a caveat: Family relationships must be consciously strengthened and bonds intentionally formed.  Those outside pressures and influences which threaten our families can destroy them if we’re not actively working to strengthen those relationships.

But, there is a saying that "Not all you expect will happen in the future." Why???

We may not be aware of what is happening now but there is an increase in number of cases of "child abuse" all over the world... 

 

WHAT IS CHILD ABUSE?

-Refers to the maltreatment, whether habitual or not, of the child which includes any of the following: 

> Psychological and physical abuse, neglect, cruelty, sexual abuse and emotional maltreatment.                
>Any act by deeds or words which debases, degrades or demeans the intrinsic worth and dignity of  a child as a human being.       
>Unreasonable deprivation of his basic needs for survival, such food and shelter. 
>Failure to immediately give medical treatment to an injured child resulting in a serious impairment of his growth and development or in his capacity or even death. 

WHAT ARE THE FORMS/TYPES OF CHILD ABUSE? 

1. PHYSICAL ABUSE                                                                 

~The physical child abuse is an action that involves physical aggression resulting to body injuries. Although the injury is accidentally done, the act will still fall under the physical abuse. You can identify if a child is being abused physically if she or he is experiencing beating, kicking, hair pulling, and burning of any part of the body using cigarettes. There are also some severe physical punishments that are made by the parents to their children. Actually, some parents give physical punishment to their children not realizing that it already becomes a child abuse.




2. EMOTIONAL ABUSE

~Emotional child abuse is an action that damages the child’s development and mental health. It can vary from simple verbal insult or constant criticism to a severe punishment like extreme rejection. The action can come from parties, sibling, teachers, friends, and other people. This type of child abuse is usually difficult to prove. That is why some organizations that deal in child protective movements may not be able to interfere without any proof of mental injury to the children.

3. SEXUAL ABUSE

~Sexual abuse is an action of tempting or forcing a child to perform sexual activities like prostitution, whether the child knows what is happening or not. This involves physical contact as penetrative or non-penetrative acts. The so-called penetrative act can be defined as rape in which there is a forced penetration of vagina and penis. It can also be identified by a sexual penetration of anus or vagina of a child with an object or part of the body. In addition, it also involves the non-contact activities like allowing the child to look abusive images or watching sexual activities and other photos that show phonographs.

4. NEGLECT ABUSE 

~The most common type of child abuse is neglect. More children are experiencing from neglect child abuse than sexual and physical abuse. However, the bad thing about this type of child abuse is that the victims are not identified because it is considered as an omission act. This action is a scheme of falling to provide the children’s needs, most especially for, clothes, right way of discipline and education.

WHAT WOULD BE THE EFFECTS OF THIS TO THE PERSON?
> anxiety problem
> eating disorders
>depression
>insomnia
>panic
>sexual dysfunction
>suicidal idealization behavior

>develop a range of maladaptive,anti-social and self-destructive behaviors and thoughts

> always has an unexplainable fear when they remember their experience of abuse

> do not develop self-confidence

>does not trust anybody or afraid to do so

But not all  the victims are affected.......

 

Even the people who does the evil act are affected. They continuously abuse the child until such time they that get used to it which might result to hitting other children, not only their own.Also, those who discover the victims' situations and their experiences of abusive acts, are affected. The feeling of empathy and sadness towards the victim is an immediate response and anger for the abuser. Some would try to ignore it but others, with no second thoughts, will move and act to help the victims and make sure that the abuser will pay!!

WHAT CAN BE THE POSSIBLE WAYS OR  TO LIGHTEN THEIR SUFFERINGS AND MOVE ON WITH THEIR LIVES AS NORMAL PERSONS?
   Victims of child abuse seek therapy for a number of  reasons. Most therapists claim that victims of such  have developed many problems such as eating disorders, depression, anxiety disorders and more. Since victims of childhood abuse are most likely affected not only physically but psychologically, it is important to help them move on and start a new life thus the following ways may give a hand on how to deal with these kinds of situations:

 O Counseling in the form of individual and possibly group therapy.

 O Medication can be useful for the signs and symptoms of anxiety, depression, wounds and others.

 O Encourage victims to get along with relatives and other people

 O Maintaining a good and well balance environment to motivate the victim to move on

 O For children, play therapy. 

"Every child  have their own rights and freedom:"

      -Laws or Rights of a child:

*Republic Act No. 7610 Special Protection of Children Against Abuse, Exploitation and Discrimination Act

              -The State shall intervene on behalf of the child when the parent, guardian, teacher or person having care or custody of the child fails or is unable to protect the child against abuse, exploitation and discrimination or when such acts against the child are committed by the said parent, guardian, teacher or person having care and custody of the same.

It shall be the policy of the State to protect and rehabilitate children gravely threatened or endangered by circumstances which affect or will affect their survival and normal development and over which they have no control.

* Article XV THE FAMILY Section 3.2

            -The state shall defend: The right of children to assistance, including proper care and nutrition, and special protection from all forms of neglect, abuse, cruelty, exploitation, and other conditions prejudicial to their  development.

      A child is a person who is going to be a teen at age 13, and an adult at 18. They maybe a “brat” or your worst nightmare, but it is only a stage.

      Child abuse is one of the most disgusting social problems nowadays. It is refined as a variety of unlawful actions directed against children. The main cause of child abuse is the financial crisis which comes with lack of education and industrial opportunities to parents. This also belongs to the category of human trafficking which indicates forcing of the underage children to work for the purpose of feeding their family.

     Child abuse is serious stuff. There are so many children who died, who was not ready to enter heaven. It is like committing suicide, but the child does not wish to die. The child is just a fragile boy or girl who has a lot to live for. 

CALL OR APPROACH:

          *ABS-CBN Foundation Building

           Mother Ignacia Ave. Cor. Eugenio Lopez St.

               Quezon City 1103, Philippines 

    

   *Childhelp USA®

    National Child Abuse Hotline

    1-800-4-A-CHILD

     24 Hours a Day

        *Email:

            bantaybata163@abs-cbn.com

            abscbnbb163@yahoo.com

            abscbnbb163@gmail.com